ESTRANGED - SANDER

Turning social friction into personal power

In this evocative chapter of the ESTRANGED series, ARJAN SPANNENBURG investigates the long shadow cast by adolescent bullying and the subsequent journey toward self-reclamation. Through the portrait of SANDER, the artist visualises the psychological weight of "aversie" (aversion) encountered before the subject had even fully identified his own orientation. SPANNENBURG utilises the sprawling, chaotic branches of the butterfly bush to represent the messy, often unpredictable nature of coming out to a wider family circle. The artwork captures the specific tension of the "just a friend" era, where identity is whispered rather than spoken, and the relief that comes when the perceived walls of judgment finally crumble.

The digital bridge to familial acceptance

SPANNENBURG’s motivation for this piece is to document the unconventional and often fragmented ways we seek safety during disclosure. By placing SANDER within a complex web of thin, reaching branches, the artist mirrors the subject's choice to use an email as a protective shield to reach his extended family. As SANDER reflects on the transformation of his discomfort: thanks to friends who accepted me, I was able to turn this uncomfortable feeling into strength and pride. This work serves as an institutional record of the modern queer experience, where acceptance often comes from unexpected sources, like a revered grandfather. For the collector, this piece offers a profound narrative of resilience, proving that the discomfort of the moment is often the foundation of a future, authentic self.